It's Domestic Violence Awareness Month

It's Domestic Violence Awareness Month

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Updated October 11, 2021

Written by Angela Mancuso, executive director of The Women's Center

October is here, and with the changing of the season comes an important time: Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM).

DVAM, observed every year in October, is an opportunity to come together as a community to talk about these issues, to understand them better, to share our resources, and most importantly, to support and stand with survivors. 

This year, The Women’s Center’s theme for the month is “Every1KnowsSome1” borrowed from the National Network to End Domestic Violence. Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior to maintain power and control in a relationship. It impacts people across all populations, and ALL zip codes. On average, 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in the United States.   

We often get asked how someone can support a friend or loved one who discloses violence or trauma to them. It can be difficult for a survivor to disclose any part of their experience with others. If someone comes to you for support, start by believing them. You can’t take away what happened to someone, but you can listen to them, believe them, and be a source of comfort.

Some things you can say to someone who has been impacted by domestic or sexual violence:

  • “I believe you.” The most important thing to do when supporting a survivor is validate their experience. Let them know you believe them.
  • “It wasn’t your fault.” It is essential that a survivor understand they are not responsible for their assault or abuse. Be a supportive voice and remind them that they are not to blame.
  • “I’m sorry this happened to you.” Mindful language is key: let survivors know that what happened was unacceptable, and that you take their experience and feelings seriously.
  • “Can I help?” Let survivors know you are there to support them without being forceful. This allows survivors power of choice on whether to seek out your help.
  • “What do you need most right now?” Give the survivor space to decide what comes next; there is no single right or wrong way for a survivor to respond to an assault or abuse.

It takes a lot of courage for a survivor of domestic violence or sexual assault to share their story with anyone. Never underestimate the power you have to affect the course of a survivor’s healing journey! Our 24-Hour Hotline is available always at 262.542.3828.

For more information about our events during DVAM and ways you can get involved this month and throughout the year, visit 

Your donation to United Way of Greater Milwaukee & Waukesha County's Community Fund supports programs at The Women's Center and others that are ending domestic violence in our community. If your workplace runs a United Way campaign, please consider donating this year. If not, click here to donate today. 


Holly Zwicke
October 11 2018 at  2:35:53 PM

The suggestions on what to say to a victim of domestic or sexual violence are great! They give the victim an opportunity to articulate what they are feeling-what they need and assist in beginning to process and hopefully begin a healing process.

October 11 2018 at  8:28:14 AM

There is someone very close to me who has been abused mentally and physically and it is a MALE. This isn't just women. This is men also!

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